Ms. Bennetts, I am extremely bothered by the message you are proclaiming in your book. As a wife and stay-at-home mother (who gave up working outside of the home), I do not think that it is a healthy message to be proclaiming to women. Being a stay-at-home mother is a wonderful choice to make. Yes, it does require trusting your husband, but that trust should be present before you say “I do.” I think that too many women do find themselves facing unfortunate circumstances after their husband's death or divorce, but the problem is not that they decided to become stay-at-home-mothers. I think that women need to be responsible for their economic security. They should know how to be able to earn an income, balance a checkbook, and basically take care of themselves financially. But, I also think that taking care of a home and raising children is a JOB and there is nothing wrong with your husband being your "employer." I think that couples should be open and sharing in everything, so women should always know what's going on with the finances and should not allow themselves to be kept in the dark. The wife should make sure that her name is on the bank accounts, mortgage, retirement accounts, etc. Even if the husband is the primary income earner, that income is still the wife's too. One of the real issues is being smart when it comes to picking a spouse and making sure that you know who it is you are saying "I do" to before you do it. I don't think that the problem is that women are not earning an income or are not working outside of the home, but that they are not making smarter choices when it comes to picking a spouse, how they will allow themselves to be treated, and how they allow their marriage to operate. Along with women needing to make better choices in who they choose to marry, they need to make sure that the man they are saying “I do” to really has their (the wife's) best interest at his heart too. Why marry a man that does not care what happens to you if, God forbids, something happens to him and he is no longer around or why marry a man that would want to see you broken down and destroyed by divorcing you? Now, granted when it comes to divorce I'm sure that can bring out the ugly in some people, but I have to think that some of that is noticeable earlier, probably early enough before saying I do. Being a wife and stay-at-home-mother is not about allowing yourself to fall short of the responsibility of self-care - in all aspects of self-care. As a final note, being a stay at home mom, just being a mom period, is one of the most under appreciated and under thanked PROFESSIONS! I'm really bothered that you chose to devalue the profession when society already does enough of it.